What do I need to do in order to get a job so my family & I can stop struggling?
(Am I really cursed or hexed?) ~Erica
Without knowing more about your situation, it’s a bit harder to advise you on this. However, one thing that I believe is that you are capable of creating the life you desire regardless of your “conditions.” But, in order to do this, you must first know this to be true too.
The 3D questions that I would ask are:
The 5D questions that I would ask are:
Because there are so many questions here, I pulled a few cards from my Dreams of Gaia deck because they’re good at going deep:
The Scribe represents receiving knowledge from an unbiased source. You asked if you are cursed or hexed. I would recommend working with someone who can either help you explore your past lives or your Akashic Records to see if there are karmic agreements that need to be resolved. Energy healing, like Reiki can also help move any stale energy that might be creating resistance to you evolving to the next level in your life. Silfren Circle also has a phenomenal group of Witches who can work with you to remove any curses that might exist.
However, the Eight of Air suggest a need for you to look at your beliefs and behaviors, and question them. Basically, it’s time to take responsibility for your thoughts, actions and the consequences they create.
Do you know that you are a co-creator of your life? Do you know that when you think negative things or think poorly of yourself, the Universe will create situations to support your negativity? Like attracts like… that’s why practicing gratitude, even when shit gets rough, will bring more positive things to you. I know it’s a harsh realization to learn that we directly cause so much of our suffering, but it’s just as empowering to acknowledge this as well! This means you have the power, right now, to create changes in your life!
The Nine of Earth says by helping others, you are helping yourself - however, I’m going to suggest that for you this means that you need to give to yourself, not just others! Be kind to yourself with your thoughts. Take time out to care for yourself. You mentioned having a family and I know firsthand that the one that is last to be cared for is, Self.
I also feel called to say that if you need to heal from something, take the time to do so. You will not be able to find a satisfying job or properly care for you and your family if your mind is not healthy. And by a healthy mind, I mean you are thinking positive thoughts, there are no doubts that you will receive all that you desire, and your thoughts are not stuck on past situations that need to be let go of! Likewise, your thoughts are not in the future, creating anxiety!
I’m going to recommend the book, “A Happy Pocket Full of Money,” by David Cameron Gikandi which will completely change your understanding around how you bring anything into this reality! It’s life-changing! The audiobook is also on YouTube if you want experience it that way.
So my takeaways for you, Erica are:
If it’s what you desire, you will change your life.
I have been manifesting and things slowly are happening but the ones that I stress n give my energy to don’t seem to really be happening! I know intents n positive n faith the universe will give when it’s time n ready but things I just think about without energy seem to just poof happen. What am I doing wrong?
You say you easily manifest things with a “set it and forget it” technique, vs the more common way which involves “efforting” - visualizing, perhaps meditating on what you want, vision boards maybe, or even acting “as if,” etc. - which we are all very familiar with… and that’s okay. You’re not doing anything wrong, per se, you are just not fully tuning into your true manifesting style, or the style that comes more naturally for you.
In fact, Jess Lively, a Blogger all about intentional living, is big on manifesting without using your mind/ego to determine, visualize, or decide what should happen and when. She says in this episode: by “letting go of control from the mind (or your ego), and allowing through the inner being (or your intuition), and being open-minded to the outcomes (or surrendering),” you can be very successful at manifesting what you truly desire without exerting all that extra energy!
And, I think that’s what you are doing! Without even knowing it, when you have a desire and you surrender, meaning you are not continuously focusing on what you want, your subconscious picks up on hints or clues from your intuition that have you effortlessly taking aligned actions towards your desires. Next thing you know, you’ve manifested what you wanted without even trying.
The Star card presented for you as a reminder that we all have a spark of the divine within us! So while the Star promises us that we will find what we seek, it also reminds us to look within as well as without for the answers. To me, this is reinforcing that you are indeed a powerful manifestor - you naturally use your intuition to guide you towards your desires and that’s fabulous! Nurture that way of manifesting because that’s what works for you.
I help women change their perspectives to one that is empowering! I help you learn to work with your intuition and create shifts in your life! If you’d like to work with me further, send me an email by clicking here.
Author: Toni Moné of Silfren Circle
I'm a single mom of 3 and we struggle. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship & I need that in my life again. So, I'm trying to get myself ahead financially & find a new relationship. I know that I have some self care to do, too. I feel frozen because I'm not sure what to do. I'm stuck in life. What should I focus on first? ~Melody
This touched me so deeply because I too am a mother of 3 and know how easy it is to feel overwhelmed when there is so much to focus on and 6 eyes always watching...YOUR. EVERY. MOVE! But, it appears you already know the answer - you need to focus on YOU first! More specifically than self-care, self-love (which involves self-care but it goes deeper than that).
What is Self-Love...
Self-love is shifting your vibrational alignment to empowerment!
Self-love is giving yourself the kind of love that you give to the others you love most - like your children, your family, your friends.
Self-love is honoring your body with exercise and healthy foods.
Self-love is feeding your mind positive affirmations, and feeding your soul by connecting with it through different practices like Meditation.
Self-love is pleasuring yourself - yes, in that way - tapping into your sensuality and creativity.
Self-love is doing for you what you want someone else to do for you - buy yourself flowers, take yourself out to dinner, buy yourself that handbag - it’s not waiting for someone else to make you happy.
Self-love is not skimping on your own needs and wants! Don’t settle for the “okay” shirt just because it’s on sale. (You’re not alone; I’m guilty too.)
Most importantly, self-love is trusting that
the Universe has your back!
Natalia Benson, a Women’s Empowerment Leader said it perfectly: “The Universe and the energy around you will meet you as powerfully, beautifully, and deeply as the energy that you put out.” This means that once you are coming from a high-vibe place of confidence and love, and your frequency is aligned with your empowerment and who you truly are, not only will life get fun, and abundance flow in effortlessly, but you will attract that relationship that you are wanting - maybe even your soulmate.
The Ace of Earth fell out of the deck for you. Earth cards, like Pentacles, represent home, family, money, and career so it is very fitting for your question. However this this card is all about new beginnings and laying a solid foundation so that’s wonderful for your situation!
It’s about getting clear on your desired outcome while remaining mindful about the motivation behind it. (Why do you NEED a new relationship in your life now?) Maybe you do, but maybe it’s with you.
Now is the time to work on yourself, your finances and what it is that will make you happy! As a Mom, it is your job to put your children first, but if your cup is empty, Melody, you will have nothing to pour into theirs!
First, practice self-love. Next, work on any limiting beliefs that you might have around money. Mindset work is super important in building your foundation for a home full of love and abundance. You will then be in a place where you are open to receive the love you desire.
Author: Toni Moné
Hi, I wanted to ask a question about my future. I started a business at home and would like to rent a room or spot to expand properly away from my home. I’m an Esthetician, I’ve been patient and hopeful that it will happen soon, but 2 nights ago I had a dream that I had an abortion and there was a lot of blood, but, I had no physical pain. Just sadness that I had lost a baby. I was excited for this baby in my dream. Ever since I started feeling doubtful about succeeding in future. ~Erica
I’ve heard and learned that the best way to interpret dreams is to do so intuitively, before looking up an specific meanings, and it seems as though you have done this too. Intuitively, I feel that the baby you lost in your dream was the dream of you holding your business in a new environment, but what is interesting is that you lost the baby through an abortion and not through a passive means, like a miscarriage. It was through an action you took that lost the baby.
You also said that you’ve been patient and hopeful that the expansion would happen soon - have you taken the necessary actions to help manifest this desire? Or, have you been more passive, feeling that when it happens, it will happen?
When I turned to Cafe au Soul for some dream interpretation: If it involves a baby, then there is a sense that a new or emerging identity is being abandoned. Dreaming of having or caring for a baby shows the emergence of a new side of you. If you dream of abortion, it will suggest your unwillingness to change, open or transform.
To me, the dream indicates your desire to give up on the dream to expand your business. It’s like subconsciously, you are ready to kill it, even though consciously, you want this. There’s an internal conflict which may be why the new location has not come to pass as of yet.
When I turned to tarot, I pulled the Knight of Cups which cautions you to be careful not to let your heart completely overrule your head. Two questions come to mind - is now the best time to expand your business? Although you desire (heart) to expand, in your dream you took actions (head) to stop the expansion, and in this reality, you’ve been patient and hopeful - both passive “actions.”
The word “fear” popped up for me too - Do you have fear surrounding expanding your business? If we think of your business in the new space as an “emerging identity,” is there fear surrounding what this will look like for you? More space could also mean more responsibility. More clients could also mean more time away from your home and/or family. More money could also mean more ways to lose money. I’m not saying any of this to scare you but sometimes we focus so much on the light-side of something, that we forget that there is a shadow side to everything. We can’t ignore that shadow - we must address it so that we can continue moving towards the light… towards expansion!
My advice is to journal or meditate around some of these questions to see what might arise for you. Shining light on any fears you might have will help keep them from hindering your growth. Then when you ready, take the actions necessary to expand! Research locations, plan how the new space will flow. Grow your client list so that the new place will be filled as well as your schedule! The Universe will support your business expansion when YOU are ready.
Author: Toni of Silfren Circle
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“I feel like I’m on the right path so far, but I feel like there’s something in the way. Is there something or someone blocking me from reaching my full potential?”
First, know that you are always on the right path. You are always exactly where you are meant to be. Although there is a destination our Soul is heading towards, there are many paths laid out for us to have experiences that will contribute to our evolution along the way. You are meant to experience every encounter, every situation, and every challenge that comes your way. This includes every “block.”
I once heard that the idea of us having “blocks” is an illusion created by our own mind. I delved further into this theory and read from Catalyst Yogi that, “When it seems as if you have come up against a block in your life, it means you have come up against a block in your own mind. You may need to let go of self-limiting beliefs you have about yourself, other people and the world.”
Why do you feel that there is something or someone blocking your way? Is it because you are faced with challenge after challenge and feel like those challenges are meant to hold you back? What if those challenges are there to help you learn a lesson that will uplevel your life and prepare you to better handle a future event? Is it because you feel like you get to a certain place in your life and then don’t know where to go from there? Do you feel resistance when taking the next step or even feel clueless to what the next step is? Even without knowing the answers to these questions, I will take a wild guess that the person holding you back, is you. There’s something within you that is creating resistance towards moving forward. Often it’s fear. Sometimes there is a lesson the Universe wants you to learn - a lesson that you must learn if you want to proceed. Sometimes it’s because you think you want one thing, but your Higher Self knows it’s not in alignment for you, so your energetic vibration doesn’t match and you think you’re “blocked.” However, the reality is it wasn’t meant for you- at least not at that time you want it.
The Eight of Fire literally fell from my Dreams of Gaia tarot deck. This card symbolizes transformation through action - change on a physical level that brings freedom and joy.
“If you need to make real changes in your life, now is the time to do it. No more thinking, no more planning, and no more dreaming. Now is the time to act and transform yourself or your life, or to take an idea, a possession - something in your life or space- and repurpose or transform it. Regardless of what action you take of what change you make, once experienced, it will bring you a sense of freedom...of weight lifted. You will feel reborn and will face the future with a renewed sense of purpose.”
My advice is to go within yourself if you really don’t know what your limiting beliefs are towards reaching your full potential. I think automatic writing is a great way to communicate with your Higher Self! Ask a question and just start writing - you might uncover some really deep-rooted fears that are holding you back. There are many different ways in which you can work to release your fears, but you will have to if you want to keep going. Then, take action! Commit to being uncomfortable; commit to continuing even if you don’t know all of the “hows.” Just commit to yourself and you’ll see that those blocks were just in your head.
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There are some people who can stay at the same, dead-end job for years without complaint. There are some people who can go from one job to the next without skipping a beat.
Then, there are the rest of us who will reach a pivotal point in our human existence where the mundane will no longer suffice.
Our Souls want us to find our place in the world where we can be the best version of ourselves. For this to happen, the Universe might shake some shit up through job loss, or hold out on us until that perfect next step is ready. Here’s some advice if you find yourself in this unfamiliar place. (I’ve used the Dreams of Gaia tarot for deeper insights).
“I’m at a crossroads with my career. I feel like I may lose my job within a year or so. I’m thinking that I need to start some sort of new career, but I just don’t know what direction to go in. Any insight would be appreciated!”
First, I wonder why you feel you might lose your job within the next year. I believe you. Many people are intuitive and empathic. If you are either or both, you might be picking up on the energies of others around you who might know something about your position’s inevitable demise or maybe you got an intuitive hit telling you that it might be time to start looking for something new. Either way… it’s probably time you start looking for something new.
What to do? Ask yourself some questions: What lights you up inside? What can you see yourself doing for the rest of your human life? What can you see yourself doing, for free, because it’s just so soul-fulfilling?
I pulled the Three of Fire while responding to your question - which literally shows a person “hitchhiking” or preparing for a journey. The Three of Fire lets you know “that now is a good time to explore and experiment on a practical level. Use your hands and mind to practice, hone, and refine your skills or abilities so that what you create and do will always be something crafted to the best of your abilities, and be a true reflection of your passion and dedication.”
My advice to you is this - 1) Energetically cut your chords from your current job. This means give yourself permission to let your mind start looking towards the future, without feeling guilty. Be open to something new. 2) Go within - if you don’t already know what your heart desires to do as a career, try meditating or journaling around it. What are your passionate about? Only you can answer this question. 3) Take aligned steps towards your new desires and trust your intuition! Honestly, it’s that simple. And since you currently have a job, it takes the pressure off you so avoid the pitfalls of acting out of fear of “lack.” (That will only bring more evidence of lack.)
Find your dream job, start that business, or sell everything and be of service in a third world country! Whatever you choose to do, remember to trust that the Universe has your back! Remember that the Universe wants us to show up as the best version of ourselves. And remember to trust yourself.
“What’s the best way for me to land a job in my field (software development)?”
When it comes to any type of job that we want, we need to make sure that we really want it. I know that sounds silly but it’s true. From the time we are young, we are told to go to school, study something of interest then graduate and find a job in that field. But I don’t think that is always the case. Sometimes we have so many interests that we don’t know which field to settle down in, or the opposite - we have no strong interests and we need time to wander! So my first question is this - is this the field you truly want to work in? Does the work in this field light you up? If so, perfect! Then by the law of attraction, you will find a job in this field! But if it doesn’t, you will need to figure out what it is you really want to do. Your energy must match your desire in order to obtain it.
Everything is made up of energy. Our thoughts are so much more powerful than we could ever imagine! Think of our thoughts as messages we send out into the Universe. The Universe hears them and works to actualize them. If you really want something (and it’s in alignment to your path), then it will actualize. Likewise, focusing on what you don’t want, will actualize more of what you don’t want, so be mindful of your thoughts!
I love this definition of manifestation from Kathrin Zenkina over at ManifestionBabes.com. She says, “manifestation is the phenomenon that occurs when something that was originally part of your imagination becomes part of your physical reality.”
First, visualize your perfect job, then find or create a job description the matches your vision. You know what you want! Then, take aligned action by sending out resumes to companies with such positions - include companies that might not have an open position listed. But, do all of this knowing that you already have the job. Claim it! Get your energy to match what it will feel like when the company calls you to say, “You’re hired!” Then, surrender! Open your mind to the different possibilities and opportunities that will present themselves to you. There are many different paths to the end result - many that you might not have even thought of yet! Your job is to trust that the Universe will support you with getting there.
I pulled the Eight of Water when working on a response for you. The Eight of Water symbolizes how a positive state of appreciation and gratitude can influence our lives and environment for the better. It reminds us to take time to appreciate the people, the beauty and abundance already present in our lives.
It is easy to focus on what we don’t have especially when we want something, like a dream job. But by “choosing to focus on all that is good in your life, you will create a positive, emotional, two-way flow of energy that, like water, finds its way into every crack, where it washes away the cynicism, criticism, confusion, conflict, and anything else that might be weighing you down.” So my last piece of advice to you is this - practice gratitude! Appreciate the job you already have as a way to call in the job you truly desire.
I wish you both the best of luck!
Author: Toni Mone of Silfren Circle
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With social media, it is easy to become enamored with the stories of spiritual influencers who talk about their awakenings - how they discovered their gifts through some kind of trial and tribulation, and are now living soul fulfilling lifestyles that support their passions. Although this is beautiful and inspiring, I think that for some of us a little newer to our journeys, who may be struggling with how we are meant to share ourselves with the world, hearing these stories can have us imagining what our spiritual journey is supposed to look like based on other people’s experiences. We start “shoulding” on ourselves.
As a late bloomer who started to awaken about 3 years ago at the age of 32, I am on this spiritual journey with a husband and 3 kids under the ages of 8. To say that this makes it a bit more difficult to find the time I’d like to dedicate to growing spiritually, would be an understatement.
I had often found myself daydreaming about what my life should look like, and becoming unsatisfied because it did not. I even became resentful at times because I felt that my responsibilities kept me from living the lifestyle I was ready to live - a life filled with freedom to travel to spiritually intoxicating destinations like India, or to meditate whenever I needed to ground into Mother Earth; a life where I sprinkled self-love over myself daily and was never concerned about abundance because there were no hesitations that the Universe would provide. I felt that I should be able to have it all because I was now understanding concepts like Law of Attraction and Manifestation. I should be able to know my purpose and live it!
The funny thing about “should” is that it is one of those words that you should only use when saying you should never use it. Definitely never use it when describing how you want your life to look. “Should” creates an expectation that may not be true for you. “Should” leads to disappointment because if that influencer’s life from which you borrowed a piece of your dream life from, is not your reality - which it is not - and this person’s journey is not in alignment with your own - which it probably is not - then that “should” is never going to happen.
We are Spiritual Beings living a human existence. Your Soul chose to incarnate in this lifetime and has chosen which experiences it wants to have in order to continue its evolution. It has chosen the perfect life for you to live to get to where you are meant to be and to become who you are meant to become! Once I remembered this, I was able to change my perspective to one that worked for me and not against me. Instead of thinking that being a mother and a wife was a hindrance to my spiritual growth, I started to see that my “challenges” were actually opportunities to practice concepts that are the foundation of many paths of Enlightenment.
Listening to your Intuition as a wife and a parent is not only important, it’s necessary! I remember one morning I was laying under the covers with my newborn while my then 2-year old was playing in the room. Without seeing what was about to happen, I heard a voice in my ear say, “Go!” I didn’t question it but knew exactly what to do. I flew across the bed just in time to catch the television that was about to fall on my child. She had opened all of the drawers in the dresser and it was about to tip over. To this day, I don’t know how I knew to react but I am thankful that I listened to my Intuition without question. Our Intuition is present to guide us towards the paths that will lead to our happiness - usually the path of least resistance. Although I’d love to strengthen this muscle through daily meditation, I don’t always have time; luckily being a parent has taught me that I need to simply trust myself.
It is so easy to zone out during our mundane tasks of the day. From doing dishes and folding laundry, to even driving to school or work, our thoughts can easily drift to alternate timelines. And as beautiful as it is to daydream, especially as it can contribute to manifesting your ideal life, it can also cause stress. When your thoughts constantly visit past events that caused unpleasant emotions, we can become depressed. Likewise, when our thoughts create uncomfortable scenarios in the future, we can become anxious. Being able to remain present helps us live in the here and now because face it - it’s the only thing that is true. You can practice mindfulness by simply paying attention to what you are doing. When you wash the dishes, feel the plate in your hands and how the water feels as it washes over them. I’m sure you’d agree that this is more pleasant than stressing over what was or might never be.
Who better to learn life lessons from than your partner, especially when there is conflict involved. I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and we have had our share of highs and lows. I can say with love that I am thankful for the many lessons I’ve learned during this time with him. Believe me, I didn’t always see it this way. I’ve seen it as a burden, as unnecessary and have wanted to give up on more than one occasion. But as I’ve grown spiritually, I have become more able to change the perspective during a conflict, observe and process the emotions objectively, and better understand the lesson from the situation. Everyone we encounter is someone in which we have a soul contract with. I like to think the person we chose to have a more intimate relationship with, like our boyfriends and spouses, are here to teach us the really big life lessons - like unconditional love.
They say that your purpose in life will come from something that will be a challenge for you. I knew I had a lot of greatness within me but struggled with how I was meant to share my story with the world. Once I changed my perspective, I was able to take my “challenge” and not only see opportunities but even find a purpose. I saw that I could help many other women who struggled with balancing the responsibilities of being a wife or mother, or even an employee or CEO, with finding time and space for self-love and self-care.
However, when I stepped back and looked at this even deeper, I was able to see the bigger role I am here to play - helping others change their perspective, in any situation, to one that is empowering instead of limiting. So not only has my family situation helped my spiritual growth, it’s lead me discover one of my purposes this lifetime and I’ve started building a soulful business around it.
The quicker that you are able to see that the conflicts, the situations, and the challenges that present in your life are actually little blessings that the Universe has tossed at you to keep you moving and to keep you evolving, the easier it will become to embrace them, learn from them, love them, and flow through them. It’s as simple as a shift in perspective.
Author: Toni Moné of Silfren Circle
My name is Toni and I am a Wife and Mom to three little ones. As a Lightworker, I'm being called to create a spiritual business centered around helping other women change their perspectives to create a life that is aligned with their authentic selves. I mentor, create, practice divination, and freelance write for fun ☺️