I have been manifesting and things slowly are happening but the ones that I stress n give my energy to don’t seem to really be happening! I know intents n positive n faith the universe will give when it’s time n ready but things I just think about without energy seem to just poof happen. What am I doing wrong?
You say you easily manifest things with a “set it and forget it” technique, vs the more common way which involves “efforting” - visualizing, perhaps meditating on what you want, vision boards maybe, or even acting “as if,” etc. - which we are all very familiar with… and that’s okay. You’re not doing anything wrong, per se, you are just not fully tuning into your true manifesting style, or the style that comes more naturally for you.
In fact, Jess Lively, a Blogger all about intentional living, is big on manifesting without using your mind/ego to determine, visualize, or decide what should happen and when. She says in this episode: by “letting go of control from the mind (or your ego), and allowing through the inner being (or your intuition), and being open-minded to the outcomes (or surrendering),” you can be very successful at manifesting what you truly desire without exerting all that extra energy!
And, I think that’s what you are doing! Without even knowing it, when you have a desire and you surrender, meaning you are not continuously focusing on what you want, your subconscious picks up on hints or clues from your intuition that have you effortlessly taking aligned actions towards your desires. Next thing you know, you’ve manifested what you wanted without even trying.
The Star card presented for you as a reminder that we all have a spark of the divine within us! So while the Star promises us that we will find what we seek, it also reminds us to look within as well as without for the answers. To me, this is reinforcing that you are indeed a powerful manifestor - you naturally use your intuition to guide you towards your desires and that’s fabulous! Nurture that way of manifesting because that’s what works for you.
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Author: Toni Moné of Silfren Circle
I'm a single mom of 3 and we struggle. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship & I need that in my life again. So, I'm trying to get myself ahead financially & find a new relationship. I know that I have some self care to do, too. I feel frozen because I'm not sure what to do. I'm stuck in life. What should I focus on first? ~Melody
This touched me so deeply because I too am a mother of 3 and know how easy it is to feel overwhelmed when there is so much to focus on and 6 eyes always watching...YOUR. EVERY. MOVE! But, it appears you already know the answer - you need to focus on YOU first! More specifically than self-care, self-love (which involves self-care but it goes deeper than that).
What is Self-Love...
Self-love is shifting your vibrational alignment to empowerment!
Self-love is giving yourself the kind of love that you give to the others you love most - like your children, your family, your friends.
Self-love is honoring your body with exercise and healthy foods.
Self-love is feeding your mind positive affirmations, and feeding your soul by connecting with it through different practices like Meditation.
Self-love is pleasuring yourself - yes, in that way - tapping into your sensuality and creativity.
Self-love is doing for you what you want someone else to do for you - buy yourself flowers, take yourself out to dinner, buy yourself that handbag - it’s not waiting for someone else to make you happy.
Self-love is not skimping on your own needs and wants! Don’t settle for the “okay” shirt just because it’s on sale. (You’re not alone; I’m guilty too.)
Most importantly, self-love is trusting that
the Universe has your back!
Natalia Benson, a Women’s Empowerment Leader said it perfectly: “The Universe and the energy around you will meet you as powerfully, beautifully, and deeply as the energy that you put out.” This means that once you are coming from a high-vibe place of confidence and love, and your frequency is aligned with your empowerment and who you truly are, not only will life get fun, and abundance flow in effortlessly, but you will attract that relationship that you are wanting - maybe even your soulmate.
The Ace of Earth fell out of the deck for you. Earth cards, like Pentacles, represent home, family, money, and career so it is very fitting for your question. However this this card is all about new beginnings and laying a solid foundation so that’s wonderful for your situation!
It’s about getting clear on your desired outcome while remaining mindful about the motivation behind it. (Why do you NEED a new relationship in your life now?) Maybe you do, but maybe it’s with you.
Now is the time to work on yourself, your finances and what it is that will make you happy! As a Mom, it is your job to put your children first, but if your cup is empty, Melody, you will have nothing to pour into theirs!
First, practice self-love. Next, work on any limiting beliefs that you might have around money. Mindset work is super important in building your foundation for a home full of love and abundance. You will then be in a place where you are open to receive the love you desire.
Author: Toni Moné
Hi, I wanted to ask a question about my future. I started a business at home and would like to rent a room or spot to expand properly away from my home. I’m an Esthetician, I’ve been patient and hopeful that it will happen soon, but 2 nights ago I had a dream that I had an abortion and there was a lot of blood, but, I had no physical pain. Just sadness that I had lost a baby. I was excited for this baby in my dream. Ever since I started feeling doubtful about succeeding in future. ~Erica
I’ve heard and learned that the best way to interpret dreams is to do so intuitively, before looking up an specific meanings, and it seems as though you have done this too. Intuitively, I feel that the baby you lost in your dream was the dream of you holding your business in a new environment, but what is interesting is that you lost the baby through an abortion and not through a passive means, like a miscarriage. It was through an action you took that lost the baby.
You also said that you’ve been patient and hopeful that the expansion would happen soon - have you taken the necessary actions to help manifest this desire? Or, have you been more passive, feeling that when it happens, it will happen?
When I turned to Cafe au Soul for some dream interpretation: If it involves a baby, then there is a sense that a new or emerging identity is being abandoned. Dreaming of having or caring for a baby shows the emergence of a new side of you. If you dream of abortion, it will suggest your unwillingness to change, open or transform.
To me, the dream indicates your desire to give up on the dream to expand your business. It’s like subconsciously, you are ready to kill it, even though consciously, you want this. There’s an internal conflict which may be why the new location has not come to pass as of yet.
When I turned to tarot, I pulled the Knight of Cups which cautions you to be careful not to let your heart completely overrule your head. Two questions come to mind - is now the best time to expand your business? Although you desire (heart) to expand, in your dream you took actions (head) to stop the expansion, and in this reality, you’ve been patient and hopeful - both passive “actions.”
The word “fear” popped up for me too - Do you have fear surrounding expanding your business? If we think of your business in the new space as an “emerging identity,” is there fear surrounding what this will look like for you? More space could also mean more responsibility. More clients could also mean more time away from your home and/or family. More money could also mean more ways to lose money. I’m not saying any of this to scare you but sometimes we focus so much on the light-side of something, that we forget that there is a shadow side to everything. We can’t ignore that shadow - we must address it so that we can continue moving towards the light… towards expansion!
My advice is to journal or meditate around some of these questions to see what might arise for you. Shining light on any fears you might have will help keep them from hindering your growth. Then when you ready, take the actions necessary to expand! Research locations, plan how the new space will flow. Grow your client list so that the new place will be filled as well as your schedule! The Universe will support your business expansion when YOU are ready.
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