I'm a single mom of 3 and we struggle. It's been a while since I've been in a relationship & I need that in my life again. So, I'm trying to get myself ahead financially & find a new relationship. I know that I have some self care to do, too. I feel frozen because I'm not sure what to do. I'm stuck in life. What should I focus on first? ~Melody
This touched me so deeply because I too am a mother of 3 and know how easy it is to feel overwhelmed when there is so much to focus on and 6 eyes always watching...YOUR. EVERY. MOVE! But, it appears you already know the answer - you need to focus on YOU first! More specifically than self-care, self-love (which involves self-care but it goes deeper than that).
What is Self-Love...
Self-love is shifting your vibrational alignment to empowerment!
Self-love is giving yourself the kind of love that you give to the others you love most - like your children, your family, your friends.
Self-love is honoring your body with exercise and healthy foods.
Self-love is feeding your mind positive affirmations, and feeding your soul by connecting with it through different practices like Meditation.
Self-love is pleasuring yourself - yes, in that way - tapping into your sensuality and creativity.
Self-love is doing for you what you want someone else to do for you - buy yourself flowers, take yourself out to dinner, buy yourself that handbag - it’s not waiting for someone else to make you happy.
Self-love is not skimping on your own needs and wants! Don’t settle for the “okay” shirt just because it’s on sale. (You’re not alone; I’m guilty too.)
Most importantly, self-love is trusting that
the Universe has your back!
Natalia Benson, a Women’s Empowerment Leader said it perfectly: “The Universe and the energy around you will meet you as powerfully, beautifully, and deeply as the energy that you put out.” This means that once you are coming from a high-vibe place of confidence and love, and your frequency is aligned with your empowerment and who you truly are, not only will life get fun, and abundance flow in effortlessly, but you will attract that relationship that you are wanting - maybe even your soulmate.
The Ace of Earth fell out of the deck for you. Earth cards, like Pentacles, represent home, family, money, and career so it is very fitting for your question. However this this card is all about new beginnings and laying a solid foundation so that’s wonderful for your situation!
It’s about getting clear on your desired outcome while remaining mindful about the motivation behind it. (Why do you NEED a new relationship in your life now?) Maybe you do, but maybe it’s with you.
Now is the time to work on yourself, your finances and what it is that will make you happy! As a Mom, it is your job to put your children first, but if your cup is empty, Melody, you will have nothing to pour into theirs!
First, practice self-love. Next, work on any limiting beliefs that you might have around money. Mindset work is super important in building your foundation for a home full of love and abundance. You will then be in a place where you are open to receive the love you desire.
Author: Toni Moné
My name is Toni and I am a Wife and Mom to three little ones. As a Lightworker, I'm being called to create a spiritual business centered around helping other women change their perspectives to create a life that is aligned with their authentic selves. I mentor, create, practice divination, and freelance write for fun ☺️